Your 90/10 rhythm aligns closely with how I support my clients too. The focus on returning to anchors rather than chasing perfection creates lasting change. Grateful for your voice in this space.
Yes, exactly—that’s the whole game—don’t toss the whole rhythm because of one cookie, one party, or one late night. Especially this season, I’m a fan of pre-deciding my anchors and my 10% pockets so I can enjoy the holiday swirl and keep one steady place to come back to.
The idea that "shorten the distance between the miss and the return" is way more practical than just telling people to be consistent. I think most folks already know what they should do, but we get stuck on making it a binary thing when real life is messy. Naming your 10% ahead of time basically removes the guilt so you can actually come back instead of spiraling.
You nailed it: most people already know “what to do”—it’s the binary thinking that trips them. Naming the 10% ahead of time pulls the guilt out and lets you just… come back.
As a recovering perfectionist this was a great read. It's been challenging chosing myself while balancing motherhood and work. I appreciate this approach.
Recovering perfectionist here too! And motherhood + work is the advanced level.
The shift for me was: I don’t have to “choose myself” in big dramatic ways—I can choose myself at one warm, on-time meal and let that steady everything else. Small anchors that actually fit a real life. It's quite effective!
Your 90/10 rhythm aligns closely with how I support my clients too. The focus on returning to anchors rather than chasing perfection creates lasting change. Grateful for your voice in this space.
Love hearing this from someone in the trenches with clients. 🙌
Same here: once we stop chasing “perfect” and just train the return to anchors, everything else gets lighter.
Most of what I do here is map that return through one warm, on-time lunch and the 3 pm energy audit—rhythm instead of self-blame.
Keep coming back to anchor, don't throw away all good habits because of one slip up. Great article and great reminder before the holiday season!
Yes, exactly—that’s the whole game—don’t toss the whole rhythm because of one cookie, one party, or one late night. Especially this season, I’m a fan of pre-deciding my anchors and my 10% pockets so I can enjoy the holiday swirl and keep one steady place to come back to.
The idea that "shorten the distance between the miss and the return" is way more practical than just telling people to be consistent. I think most folks already know what they should do, but we get stuck on making it a binary thing when real life is messy. Naming your 10% ahead of time basically removes the guilt so you can actually come back instead of spiraling.
You nailed it: most people already know “what to do”—it’s the binary thinking that trips them. Naming the 10% ahead of time pulls the guilt out and lets you just… come back.
As a recovering perfectionist this was a great read. It's been challenging chosing myself while balancing motherhood and work. I appreciate this approach.
Recovering perfectionist here too! And motherhood + work is the advanced level.
The shift for me was: I don’t have to “choose myself” in big dramatic ways—I can choose myself at one warm, on-time meal and let that steady everything else. Small anchors that actually fit a real life. It's quite effective!